This letter was sent after withdrawing our support for her fundraiser and organization. Her public posts in her Facebook group stated SHE withdrew from our group. This is not true and the conversation detailing our concerns about her admin's activities and funds distribution predates her post about HER withdrawing from us. More to come.
First my letter which has since been unanswered.
Lori,
Since we have not heard anything from camp SOBBS, please allow me to outline our concerns that we feel should be made more public so as to promote more awareness of what this group actually stands for.
You have a long standing admin who has shown increasingly childish and bizarre behavior. Rather than address her questionable actions, you invite and encourage her to participate in sending you reports about the activities of groups where you do not maintain a presence. This dynamic calls in question not only your leadership, but your mutual mental health as you continue this rather unsettling relationship of master and subservient. As the the self-appointed leader of such a vulnerable group of women, it is concerning that you've created these dynamics where personal and unhealthy loyalty to you trumps the emotional well being of the very group you have proclaimed to serve.
Your admin H is an emotional child that you've failed to create proper boundaries for. One could ask why a woman who speaks of healing, who herself feels whole enough to dictate to others how to go through this process either doesn't recognize the harm her admin is doing or even worse, encourages it. Your members are not protected from the whims and episodes of a woman who has steadily shown herself to live in a world of her own making. I do not doubt this persons heart as I believe with all of mine that her actions reflect a belief she is doing right. I don't blame her, I blame you. You have allowed this. You have encouraged this. You have benefited from it and you should be deeply ashamed. I don't understand what level of self-importance it takes to justify having an individual patrolling the internet to send you reports of what anyone is saying about you or SOBBS. To put it bluntly, that is undeniably unhealthy.
Our second issue is your feigned confusion as to why I left the admin group. This is absolutely disgusting. The time stamp on your laughable version of the truth as opposed to the messages exchanged between you and Jamie. You outright lied to your admin team to get the needed emotional support for your less than stellar decisions and failure to act like an adult in this situation. Furthermore you allowed the rest of the group to question my integrity. MY integrity? Really Lori??? You really want to go there??If you think for one second that protecting your own name is grounds for denigrating something I've spent an entire year of my life working towards you are a lesser human being than I ever imagined. My team handed over two thousand dollars to you without question while we kept meticulous records as to our accounting. Can you say the same? Are you prepared to turn over a report as to where our raised money went and how it was spent? Integrity is a two way street and you are the one in question, not me. How dare you. It is now disgustingly clear why so many groups and individuals absolutely despise you. I defended you and believed you. You repaid that with treatment that can only be described as abusive.
After a lengthy phone conversation with A, it has become apparent that you have been dishonest on multiple fronts over many months. You have grossly misrepresented yourself, your organization and your appropriation of funds.
I am requesting an immediate accounting of where every last penny was spent that was donated to you. I am requesting that any money not used towards a cot be returned to the address from which it originated immediately as you accepted those funds under false pretenses. Furthermore I am requesting that all written text to which I own the copyright be removed from your website, the Cuddle Cot page, all your Facebook groups and the Cuddle Cot informational packets. Beyond our separation I'd like to remind you that I am running a for profit business and your recent allusions to my integrity have been noted and if this continues in any fashion, I will be taking it as far as I need to legally.
I also request, not for me, but for A that you do whatever is in your power to have O's birth video removed from H's local news page. Your refusal to address this with H shows that your priorities are grossly misplaced. Getting publicity for your mission should have never trumped the feelings of a grieving mother and her absolute RIGHT to say when and where her video was posted. Your refusal to support A in favor of H's feelings speaks to your opportunistic agenda. Do you know what that means? It means you use people until they question you or have their own opinion and then you discard them like trash. Ever wonder why you have so many problems keeping admin? Here's your first clue: It's you.
H's design and the MOAA logo will be removed from our selection immediately, with much relief.
You have burned bridges with countless people and the stories are coming out in full force. You need to do the right thing and admit your wrong doing, as your denial, blocking and unfriending is tarnishing your reputation even further. You are an adult. Act like it. Own what you've done and make the apologies necessary. Anything less is a slap in the face to people who have done nothing but support you. You need to change direction and make this as right as you possibly can.
I expect a timely reply to my requests before taking further action. This letter will be copied certified mail.
Melissa Coffey
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